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How To Guard Your Self-Esteem After a Layoff Eleanor Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Without a doubt, your self-esteem takes a hit when you're laid off. The hidden message seems to be that a company did not value you enough to keep you. But it can go much deeper than even that. Because of the fierce competition for the few jobs that are available, it could cause someone looking for work to gradually lose their self-respect if they aren't hired right away. Some have even become so desperate that they have resorted to shoplifting or armed robbery, which, of course, further damages self-esteem. "Self-esteem means truly loving and valuing yourself," according to the book, Self-Esteem: The Power to Be Your Bestby Mark Towers. So, during this difficult time, it is imperative for you to appreciate all of your accomplishments up till now. Write down all of your accomplishments starting from childhood, no matter how small or trivial you think they are. When you start thinking negatively or another employer turns you down, take your accomplishment list out and read it. It is also important that you listen to how you talk to yourself. If you make a mistake, do you say to yourself, "You idiot! How could you be so stupid?" Each time you say derogatory things like that you chip away at your self-esteem. Instead, when you make a mistake try saying something like this, "Well, nobody's perfect. Not even me. Next time I'll do better." The things you say about yourself are imprinted on your subconscious mind, that part of you that never sleeps, and controls your breathing, organ function, etc. The subconscious mind also brings about whatever commands you give it. It doesn't matter whether the commands or true, false, positive or negative. If your self-esteem needs a boost, what can you do? In Mark Towers' book quoted from earlier, he said that what we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. And "one way to overcome something in yourself you want to change is to affirm the change." Affirmations are usually short, simple statements "that proclaim a fact in no uncertain terms." The more you repeat these affirmations, the deeper they are impressed upon your subconscious mind which then goes to work to bring it about. Stay focused on the positive (what you want) rather than the negative (what you dont want). Even if you don't believe the affirmation yet, keep saying it! Pretend that it has already come about and offer thanks for what you hope to receive in advance.
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